If there is one common impact on every single woman in the world – it’s relationships. We’ve all had a failed relationship at some point in our lives, whether it’s a marriage, friendship, or any other kind of human connection. Whether it was your fault or not, what’s important is to learn from those experiences as well as equip yourself with the tools and the self-awareness of what you want your next relationship to look like.
In this conversation, Jaime Morgan, a relationship and personal growth coach, shares some tips and strategies to make relationships work. Jaime works with women who have been through divorce, and with couples who want to create “easy love” – a connected love that feels like it flows with ease.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How to trust yourself to love again
- Post-divorce tattoos as a powerful sign of transformation
- How to get clear on what you want in your current relationship
- The Gottman method to make relationships work
- The 3 C’s of a successful relationship
- How to deal with conflict in your relationship
- Her thoughts on going to bed angry
[04:31] How to Trust Yourself to Love Again
A lot of times, we know intuitively when it’s not time yet and when we still have to process the feelings. When resentment, anger, sadness, or grief is taking over your life in disproportionate amounts, then it’s a good signal that it’s time to work on letting go. Letting go is not the action. It’s the result of surrender, awareness, and choosing that enough is enough. You acknowledge your feelings, but then you also choose to move forward.
[12:40] The Gottman Method
Created by John and Julie Gottman, the Gottman method provides tools that couples need to make their relationships work. If two people genuinely want the relationship to last over time, they truly can if they learn how to communicate in healthy ways, turn towards each other, and foster that connection and foundation of friendship.
[16:00] The 3 C’s of a Successful Relationship
To have a successful relationship, focus on communication, conflict resolution, and connection. Communication is not just about what we speak, it’s how we listen and our intention going into it. The most important work we can do in our relationship is the work we do on ourselves because the only person we can change is ourselves. Nothing changes, if nothing changes. It’s how we talk to each other, listen to each other, and argue. Because relationships include arguing and fighting and we can use conflict to bring us closer together if we know how to communicate in a healthy way.
[19:20] How to Deal with Conflict in Your Relationship
Go into a conversation with a different intention. Go in wanting to understand rather than being understood. Show up in that conversation with the intention to understand them better, and genuinely want to listen and hear what they say, and you will see how the other person softens up. Then there’s an energy shift that leads to an upward spiral of communication that comes from a place of trust.